I’ve always heard the adoption process can be hard. Actually, I’ve heard that it WILL be hard. It doesn’t matter if it’s in the States or another country. It WILL be hard.
“Expect it to be heart wrenching.”
“It will take longer than you think or hope for.”
“It’s a roller coaster.”
“Your heart will break…multiple times…plan on it.”
We’ve been trying to adopt two and then four little ones for the last 25 months. The next court date is TODAY! June 1st!
The truth is, it’s always been one chance in a million to adopt them. ONE IN A MILLION.
We don’t fault the system…there aren’t enough workers for this small governmental program. The process itself is hyper regulated…as it should be. Yet, here we are. We still have a chance.
International adoptions are closed in Guatemala unless you’re a citizen or permanent resident. Six months after we landed in Guatemala we applied for our permanent residency. It took a year and a half but we eventually became residents of this beautiful country.
We then applied to adopt. Again, long process, but we were finally approved about a year ago.
Two years ago we met Amado and Chayo at an orphanage where our daughter was volunteering. But here’s the thing, the way adoptions are set up in Guatemala, you can’t know the child you’re going to adopt. You can’t “choose” a child. It’s set up so that families are chosen for the children, not the other way around. I love that!
As it turns out, there’s a little known program that allows you to know the child if they have special needs or if they’re part of a sibling group. Siblings can’t be split up in Guatemala.
Chayo was born deaf and she and Amado are brother and sister.
For the last year and a half, the equivalent of social services in Guatemala, has been searching for family members who might be able to adopt them. There have been lots and lots of leads and lots and lots of dead ends.
About 8 months ago, two younger brothers were identified, moved to the same orphanage and added to the caseload. Vonda and I got a text message from the director of the orphanage, “Would you consider adopting all four?” We realized we could only adopt all four and not just Amado and Chayo because siblings can’t be separated.
What would YOU do? TWO was going to be life changing. We didn’t know how we could possibly adopt all four, ages 13 months to 6 years old. But this is what we did know. If we didn’t adopt them, they would likely live their lives without a family, without parents, without someone tucking them in at night, without someone to hug and hold them and without unconditional love.
We believed there was zero chance they would be adopted…so we said, “YES!”
And now, here we are. Will this be the day? Will today be the day??? On court days my heart beats faster. I wake up hopeful and within minutes I have no hope at all. I lay their lives and my worries at the foot of the cross only to realize that I haven’t given them to Him at all. I have them hidden in my heart. I don’t want to let go and so I carry the weight of the day with me…all day.
Will you pray for the four littles? Amado, Chayo, Martin and Valentin. “Release them Lord. They’re ready. We’re ready. Fill their hearts with love. Your love and ours.”
Today, on the first day of June, pray the judge would have mercy and that they would be set free.